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This blog page has been launched to promote femininity and female empowerment, and to raise visibility of Fascinating Womanhood: an international femininity movement and guide to help women make their marriage into a lifelong love affair in the bestselling book written by Helen B. Andelin.  

His Wedding Ring Made Him Feel Trapped

Richard Forsyth

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~ From an Anonymous Contributor

I want to thank you for Fascinating Womanhood. You have helped me find my husband’s real love for me. The one thing I have wanted him to do is to wear his wedding ring. He said he hated it, and he couldn’t keep it on because it made him feel trapped. I would find it on tables and dressers; everywhere but on his finger.  He knew how badly I wanted him to wear it, but he still refused. So next time I found it, I put it away.

   One day, my lovely friend and landlady gave me your book, Fascinating Womanhood. I started to practice it in my life. One evening, about two months later, we were getting ready for a party when he asked me for his ring. My heart pounded until it hurt while I was getting it and putting it on his finger. He held up his hand and turned it back and forth admiringly. It is a year now and he has not taken it off. Our love seems to grow stronger every day.

NOTE: Our testimonials only come from real contributors, most of whom prefer to remain anonymous. The images we use in association with anonymous stories are just stock supply. We encourage you to share your story so the entire community can grow and benefit. We promise to keep your details as anonymous as you desire. Thank you to all you fascinating women out there who continue to contribute. You are changing the world!

My Dream Came True

Richard Forsyth

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~ From an Anonymous Contributor

 I’m not very good at expressing myself but I must tell you how Fascinating Womanhood has changed my life.

   My husband and I married very young. I wanted so badly to be a good wife, the kind you read about in love stories. I wanted to be fascinating, loving and soft. Only I came from a family where my mother hated housework, cooking, kids—everything womanly. I had no one to copy or to show me how to be who I longed to be. I didn’t fit in my mother’s world or in the women’s liberation world. I looked at marriage with both wishfullness and fear. I wanted marriage but I wanted a special kind of marriage, one where outsiders could just feel the love surrounding my family. I didn’t want the kind of marriage I found with all my neighbors and friends, with the wife telling the man what to do, always yelling and screaming, demanding her way. I wanted more than just a man and a woman living under the same roof. Only I felt that maybe the only people who live like this are the ones who live in children’s bedtime stories.Then I met my husband.

He was young, but he had good basic qualities and soon he had my heart. I thought with this boy I could have the kind of marriage I dreamed of. Anxious to be a wife, homemaker, and mother we started a family right away. I got pregnant within a few months, just in time to see my dreams all falling apart. My husband spent most of his time with the boys. When he was home he was always drinking, yelling, and slapping me around. He never asked me to do anything—he ordered. I feared him and almost hated him, but I came from a family who believed “You made your bed, you lie in it.” I had nowhere to go and a baby due any day. I felt helpless, trapped, and a complete failure as a woman. Where had things gone wrong?

   When my baby was born, my husband started to change and I could see a part of that person I once loved return. He was a fabulous father, but things didn’t change between us. He still slapped me around, wouldn’t come home every night until 10:00 or later from being out with the guys and would pick fights when he was home. This went on for four and a half years.  I hated being married. I hated being a mother, and I hated men. I wanted a divorce. My dream of marriage was just that, a dream. I tried so hard to be good wife. How had I failed?One day, I was reading the paper and saw an article about Fascinating Womanhood. They described marriage just like my dream!  Maybe, just maybe, I could fit with them. Maybe they could help me find who I am. I had hit bottom. How I hoped this was the answer to my prayers. I was so hopeful I rushed down to a bookstore and bought a copy of Fascinating Womanhood.  Weeks before the class was to start.  Once I started to read, I knew this was the answer to my prayers! And I decided to start right away to live this way.

   All this time I had blamed my husband for our bad marriage. How wrong I was!! Bit by bit I started to change, not him, MYSELF! I bought some new feminine dresses in soft colors. I let my nails grow and put a permanent in my hair. So much for the outside. Now I had to change the inside.  I started just looking at my husband’s good points. He was a good father, he was generous with money, he was a hard worker and a good leader. I could go on and on and I did—to HIM.  When I got up in the morning, I tried to look at the good things that would happen that day, such as the pretty wild flowers growing or the beautiful sunset.  I thought of little things I could do to make my husband happy such as cooking what he liked or writing love notes to him, telling him about things he’s done or said that made me happy. I made a point of forgetting ALL else to listen to him when he wanted to talk, even if it meant turning off dinner, or stopping folding the clothes.  I did these and much more, trying to show him in all ways, at all times, that I accept him as he is—a man and a leader of his family and that I love and admire him.

   I have been living Fascinating Womanhood for a year and a half now and you would never believe we are the same couple.  He takes me out to lunch, fishing, and almost everywhere he goes. Lots of times we just go for drives or window shopping. And where before he never bought me presents, even on my birthday or Christmas, now I get presents just because he loves me. He now enjoys buying my clothes and things for the house. Would you believe we are even thinking about having another baby, an absolute no-no 18 months ago!Thanks to Fascinating Womanhood, I don’t dream of a beautiful, warm, friendly, and loving marriage. I am living it.

NOTE: Our testimonials only come from real contributors, most of whom prefer to remain anonymous. The images we use in association with anonymous stories are just stock supply. We encourage you to share your story so the entire community can grow and benefit. We promise to keep your details as anonymous as you desire. Thank you to all you fascinating women out there who continue to contribute. You are changing the world!

New Life in Retirement

Richard Forsyth

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~ By an Anonymous Contributor

My husband and I are middle-aged grandparents with minds of our own. Forced to retire because of health problems, my husband and I decided to make the most of it and bought a home in a senior citizens retirement village. Before long, I observed that the average retired couple was not deeply happy. Most of them had worked and saved for years for this very time and found themselves disappointed. Besides that, they were lonely for their children and grandchildren who often lived far away. Retired couples have lots of time to notice petty, insignificant things in each other and tend to become critical and sarcastic. This situation distressed me and made me aware that my own marriage was not as smooth as it could be. Something was lacking! Something was elusive. The first thing I learned in Fascinating Womanhood came as a shock. The lack was within me! I had always tried to be a good wife, but I just didn’t know how at times. I found I was an expert at saying the wrong things.

But I knew as soon as I began to read, I found the way to change all that just be working and developing patience. Best of all I, alone, without help, could put our marriage on a higher level and have fun doing it. My husband does not hand out compliments easily, so I was elated one morning when he sincerely announced, “Honey, you are sweet and wonderful, and I’m glad I’m married to you.”

NOTE: Our testimonials only come from real contributors, most of whom prefer to remain anonymous. The images we use in association with anonymous stories are just stock supply. We encourage you to share your story so the entire community can grow and benefit. We promise to keep your details as anonymous as you desire. Thank you to all you fascinating women out there who continue to contribute. You are changing the world!

My Doctor's Orders

Richard Forsyth

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~ By an Anonymous Contributor

   Every woman should read Fascinating Womanhood. I personally wish I had read it years ago. It would have spared my family a lot of pain and heartache.

   I was on the verge of divorce. I have been married and have loved my husband for years, but never knew how to let him know. Last summer we really began to have problems and I was desperate. I did not know where to turn, and he refused to discuss anything with me. My doctor suggested I buy Fascinating Womanhood and I’ll be thankful forever that I did. My husband told me he has a deeper feeling for me now than he has ever had and that he has always loved me. Thank you for writing such a fantastic book. Believe me, I praise it and suggest it to every woman I can.

NOTE: Our testimonials only come from real contributors, most of whom prefer to remain anonymous. The images we use in association with anonymous stories are just stock supply. We encourage you to share your story so the entire community can grow and benefit. We promise to keep your details as anonymous as you desire. Thank you to all you fascinating women out there who continue to contribute. You are changing the world!

I Won Him Back from Another Woman with Fascinating Womanhood Principles

Richard Forsyth

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~ By an Anonymous Contributor

   My husband and I had been married 11 years and I thought we were happy. I was alone much of the time with four children but he had his own business and I thought that was the way it had to be. The only time we had together was Sunday and that always turned out boring and miserable, and I knew my husband was even more bored. I didn’t know what to do. Then it got so bad that he even worked on Sunday.

   Then suddenly there was another woman. He went on with his affair, sometimes living at home, sometimes not.  When this had been going on about two years, I found Fascinating Womanhood. I tried living it but it was almost impossible since I saw him so little and we talked even less.

   After I had the book six months I decided that I must file for divorce as I didn’t believe it was helping the children to stay together—they knew too much. When I told him, he said he didn’t believe me but said he would move out as soon as possible. It wasn’t a month before he started asking what he had to do to come back to us and then I poured on Fascinating Womanhood thick and heavy. I told him that if he would give up the other woman, that I wanted another chance to prove myself to him.We started dating and he was with us practically all the time. About three months later I dropped the divorce and he moved back home.

NOTE: Our testimonials only come from real contributors, most of whom prefer to remain anonymous. The images we use in association with anonymous stories are just stock supply. We encourage you to share your story so the entire community can grow and benefit. We promise to keep your details as anonymous as you desire. Thank you to all you fascinating women out there who continue to contribute. You are changing the world!

For Better Or For Worse

Richard Forsyth

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~ From an Anonymous Contributor

My religion taught me to accept God’s ways, but it did not stress also accepting man’s. “For better or for worse” is fine, but no one said how to act when the worst in one’s husband is showing. All of these problems were really weighing down on me where even prayer did not seem to help, when a friend asked me to attend a Fascinating Womanhood class. It was a lucky day for me. It was like looking in a mirror and seeing your faults and having the answers ready.

It’s hard to believe the changes in our lives.

My husband recently told a friend, “I have never been so much in love with my wife as I am right now.” We have come a long way back to the first beautiful years of our married life together, when I was so proud of everything he did.

From the bottom of my heart I would like to thank my teacher for teaching me these principles.

NOTE: Our testimonials only come from real contributors, most of whom prefer to remain anonymous. The images we use in association with anonymous stories are just stock supply. We encourage you to share your story so the entire community can grow and benefit. We promise to keep your details as anonymous as you desire. Thank you to all you fascinating women out there who continue to contribute. You are changing the world!

Anything So Simple that Works So Well and Beautifully Can’t be Recommended Too Highly

Richard Forsyth

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~ By an Anonymous Contributor

   I wish Fascinating Womanhood was required reading for every woman!

   Modern woman is bombarded from every angle with an image impossible to attain. According to what we see and hear, we are able to be at all times glamorous in appearance (even when we are cleaning house or romping outside with the children!), knowledgeable on a vast range of subjects, an excellent housekeeper and interior decorator, a cook who turns out dishes rivaling those of chefs who do nothing else, sexier than a movie star, involved in community affairs and improvement projects—all this in addition to being a loving and understanding wife and mother 24 hours a day and a great many cases holding down a full time job. Show me a woman who can handle all that, and I’ll show you the Amazon Lady!

   Fascinating Womanhood cuts through the fake, gets down to our real role in life, and gives us a satisfying role that we can handle, and the only one in which we can ever attain happiness.I have been and continue to be amazed at the results of applying these simple principles. I have been half resentful because my mother did not teach them to me, and the other half compassionate because I realize her mother never taught her either. You can bet that our daughter will understand that there is a difference in the needs of men and women, and how to go about accepting and meeting those needs. She will have the freedom to reject the teaching, of course, but she can’t say she wasn’t told.

   Fascinating Womanhood has been a “how to get more out of living” course. Anything so simple that works so well and beautifully can’t be recommended too highly. Try it—you’ll like it!

NOTE: Our testimonials only come from real contributors, most of whom prefer to remain anonymous. The images we use in association with anonymous stories are just stock supply. We encourage you to share your story so the entire community can grow and benefit. We promise to keep your details as anonymous as you desire. Thank you to all you fascinating women out there who continue to contribute. You are changing the world!

I Was Frustrated to the Hilt With My Husband

Richard Forsyth

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~ By an Anonymous Contributor

"We've been married 20 years, have five children who all still live with us, and I'm still madly attracted to you. I'm gonna be chasing you around all weekend. You're better than EVER! Is this even normal?!"

- My husband commented as we had a rare alone moment with coffee on our porch swing early this morning.

He added he knows my birthday is coming up and I want a purse and he was talking getting me an expensive purse. (I'm a simple gal. A simple purse is more than sufficient, I was just blown away by his enthusiasm at spending frivolously for me.)

Practicing FASCINATING WOMANHOOD is the only thing that has changed in me since three months ago when he told me he was fed up with me (insert some choice words) wanting as little time as possible with me because I was impossible to live with, he was at his wits end sensing I was displeased, he couldn’t measure up, we were stalled continually at a communication impasse where I fought it out with him as an equal (man to man), I was focused on the children's needs and frustrated to the hilt with my husband. (Of course, children have needs and we ought to be sensitive and aware of their genuine needs but I am discovering it actually goes much better for them included when I put my husband as #1.)

I have the same physical features, same hair, same weight, same personality, I love Jesus and try to follow Him in my daily living, I am the SAME PERSON I was when he couldn't stand me.

All except my attitude toward him and being reminded of how important understanding of men is.

Yesterday he had come to me when I disappeared into our room asking what was wrong, "I feel frumpy," (hair disheveled, clothes pieced haphazardly, three children have colds, one has complications from wisdom tooth extraction, our eating isn't as healthy as I usually try to keep it) "and my sugar free ice cream cone melted and broke before I had a chance to enjoy it. I'm sorry, I'll be okay I'm just a bit irritable unfortunately." I dropped my head.

He patted me reassuringly. "I'm sorry about your ice cream cone hun. You look fine. You're only frumpy when you have an attitude."

I perked up and thanked him for his encouragement.

It was insightful to hear, yet again, my attitude speaks considerably louder than the external in the long run.

It's been two months since reopening Fascinating Womanhood. I stand in awe how much improvement can happen in two months. By changing me, our marriage has without a doubt changed. Without a doubt. It's not always easy to be intentional, self-controlled, willing to humble myself, be kind, or childlike (when I want to be angry), accept, appreciate, admire tirelessly.. actually, I don't do these things tirelessly. Days like yesterday prove how I get weary of well-doing. But it won't derail me or my marriage if I can stay connected to the Source of my strength, while maintaining a bit of femininity through the storm. Humbling myself is hard for me. Also allowing his efforts to cheer me instead of staying sullen- it gives him a boost and keeps him coming back as he sees it works. Snapping out of an attitude is tough on this melancholy soul but it's possible! And our feeling, surprisingly, often follow.

It's worth every effort. My husband is so much more loving and tender toward me. (And the children.) He has continued to quit tobacco (which I had determined to accept and stop nettling him about only month earlier), he has been so much happier, more affectionate, offered to get a vasectomy so I won't have to go through surgery myself, is willing to come to my aid, he still has a negative outlook on life at times, pessimism, etc., but everything lightens up when I can learn to respond in feminine, childlike, unthreatening little ways. I think Fascinating Womanhood is good for both of our health.

I'm rediscovering this incredible, deep, kind, wise, amazing manly hunk I married over 20 years ago as I look to understand and embrace 100% of the man he is.

NOTE: Our testimonials only come from real contributors, most of whom prefer to remain anonymous. The images we use in association with anonymous stories are just stock supply. We encourage you to share your story so the entire community can grow and benefit. We promise to keep your details as anonymous as you desire. Thank you to all you fascinating women out there who continue to contribute. You are changing the world!

He Thought I Was Putting Him On

Richard Forsyth

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~ From an Anonymous Contributor

   My husband couldn’t get over the change in my attitude. He thought I was putting him on. One day he told me that he thought F.W. was teaching some sort of witchcraft to lure him into my web. Later he confessed that he could see it was a self-improvement course and that he was proud of me for realizing that I could use improving. That evening we sat for a long time talking about his business future and what a great part I play in it by finally being content and at peace with myself. There is mountain too high for us to challenge together!

NOTE: Our testimonials only come from real contributors, most of whom prefer to remain anonymous. The images we use in association with anonymous stories are just stock supply. We encourage you to share your story so the entire community can grow and benefit. We promise to keep your details as anonymous as you desire. Thank you to all you fascinating women out there who continue to contribute. You are changing the world!

Feminine Influence and Power

Richard Forsyth

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~ By Kirstin, a Fascinating Womanhood Contributor

   My husband shared something very interesting with me this morning. 

   He was pondering aloud a situation where a husband and wife are having marriage troubles. Listening to him describe the feminine power a woman has over a man was so insightful! It was also confirming what Fascinating Womanhood teaches! My eyes were glued to him as he spoke. I felt like he'd read the book, but he hasn't once flipped through the book.

   I thought of the poem in chapter 8, The Leader, pg. 112, as he spoke:

As unto the bow the cord is,So unto the man is the woman; Tho' she bends him, she obeys him; Tho' she draws him, yet she follows;Useless each without the other.-Longfellow

   My husband agonized a bit over how women often try to be a 'team' like horses, while a better approach to getting the 'horse' (man) to move/change is to maybe coerce him with a carrot, as he chose to word it. He said he doesn't feel it's wrong for a woman to use her feminine powers to inspire a man to change, in fact, his words were, he thinks it's the way it should be! He said men in general don't mind a woman using her resources to better the home and family by using her feminine charms to move a man. But he did mention the man's need to have the final say. Which is precisely what Mrs. Andelin teaches, if I'm understanding her correctly. 

   I'd often wondered about this; how would a man feel if he knew I'd learned feminine influence and tried it on him. Would he feel wronged? I never outright asked Scot about this, but was all ears as he volunteered his take on it! I practice Fascinating Womanhood to change me. Interestingly, there have been such outstanding changes taking place in our marriage/family that I never dreamed would be a serendipitous consequence, at times I'm tempted to feel a bit manipulative! I'm happy my husband put these fears to rest one hundred percent as he seemed to give me freedom to be as fascinating as I like! 

   Feminism is a broken model! It doesn't work for anyone, including women!

   Each week my jaw drops at how differently my husband responds not only to me but to our children when I live femininity. 

   As I put him first and his needs are met he is kinder, more patient, more involved, more trusting. Sometimes he is still negative and grumbles but rather than deride him or roll my eyes I accept him at face value, recognize it's possibly because of his high ideals, and try to give sympathetic understanding, or possibly a splash of childlike sass. Which amazingly causes him to square his shoulders and say it's not so bad after all! I guess it's true that when a man senses gentleness and sympathy from his woman it is his reaction to be and feel strong!?!?He is a different man! Or, maybe, I'm a different woman.

NOTE: Our testimonials only come from real contributors, most of whom prefer to remain anonymous. The images we use in association with anonymous stories are just stock supply. We encourage you to share your story so the entire community can grow and benefit. We promise to keep your details as anonymous as you desire. Thank you to all you fascinating women out there who continue to contribute. You are changing the world!

Like a Fairy Tale

Richard Forsyth

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~ From an Anonymous Contributor

   Three years ago, a new acquaintance of mine, burst through my front door, exclaiming, “Oh Jaquie! This is the most wonderful book. You simply must read it. It will help you have the most wonderful marriage!”

   Immediately, the bull inside me was thinking, “Who is she to tell me I need a book to help me have a happy marriage? I have a happy marriage. According to national standards, I have an excellent marriage”. But aloud I was saying, “Oh, really? Tell me about it”.

   My friend left the book lying on my kitchen counter. I cooked around it, cleaned around it, and washed dishes around it.  When the water would start splashing, I would think, “Now Jacquie, you’d better put that book away”. But I knew if I put it away, I wouldn’t get it back out and read it, and I knew my friend would be asking me if I had. So, one day in the time that I usually allot to reading the news, I took the most important step of my life except for the decision to marry my husband. I picked up the book, Fascinating Womanhood and began to read.

   I began to read about Celestial love in marriage, love in its highest degree. This was the kind of love I had dreamed of when I was young. But after I married, I realized I had been disillusioned and that it was immature to dream of such love. But here was a book telling me that I can be loved, cherished and adored, that my husband wants to feel that way about me. So I read on and began studying the principles of Fascinating Womanhood. As I began to practice these principles, my life changed dramatically.

   After about 2 years of practicing Fascinating Womanhood, my 17-year-old stepson described our life.  My husband is a doctor of chiropractic and his office adjoined our home. One day I came from the office into our home and our stepson was watching TV and I said, “Don’t watch stuff like that. It’s negative and life’s not like that.” He replied, “You’re wrong, Mother. From what I’ve seen of life, that’s what it’s really like. What you and Dad have here is like a fairy tale.” 

   It is up to us women to make the family strong, and by making the family strong, we make our nation strong. We need to give our children the example of a good marriage, so they will desire a good marriage. We can do this by making the principles of Fascinating Womanhood part of our lives.

NOTE: Our testimonials only come from real contributors, most of whom prefer to remain anonymous. The images we use in association with anonymous stories are just stock supply. We encourage you to share your story so the entire community can grow and benefit. We promise to keep your details as anonymous as you desire. Thank you to all you fascinating women out there who continue to contribute. You are changing the world!

What Does He See in Her?

Richard Forsyth

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~ From an Anonymous Contributor

There was a woman in our neighborhood who had everyone puzzled. She was not beautiful, was overweight, and always dressed a little dowdy. There wasn’t anything about her that was above average, at least that anyone could see on the surface, yet her husband seemed to adore her. What on earth was it? This had everyone wondering.

One evening, I was in their home about dinnertime. She was busy in the kitchen putting the final touches on dinner when her husband came home from work. This happened to be payday. He came into the kitchen, kissed her, and handed her his paycheck. She immediately stopped what she was doing, put her arms him and said, “I know how hard you work and you have worked for this…for many long hours. Thank you for providing us with so many comforts, and making it possible for me to stay home and care for the family.”

But this was not enough. She went into the living room where the children were all playing on the floor. She made them all stop and stand up. “Look,” she said as she held up the paycheck. “See, your father has worked hard to earn this money. Now Jane, this means you can have a new pair of shoes, and Johnny, you can have your bicycle fixed”. The father stood there beaming. Now only did his wife appreciate him, but taught their children to. In his eyes, she was a beautiful woman.

NOTE: Our testimonials only come from real contributors, most of whom prefer to remain anonymous. The images we use in association with anonymous stories are just stock supply. We encourage you to share your story so the entire community can grow and benefit. We promise to keep your details as anonymous as you desire. Thank you to all you fascinating women out there who continue to contribute. You are changing the world!

 My Husband and I Were Seriously Thinking of Separation

Richard Forsyth

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~ From an Anonymous Contributor

   My husband and I were seriously thinking of separation when I started to read Fascinating Womanhood. We could not even be in the house together without a fight. We were both miserable. There were children to consider, both our folks, his business, and our years of building a home together, but we were both to the point of not being able to endure life together anymore.

   Then I began practicing what I read in F.W. When a battle would begin I would run to our bedroom where I kept the book hidden, and read some advice on that particular situation. Then I would come out and be calm and reasonable. Within a few days, a noticeable change had taken place in our household. My husband began to look at me in astonishment, then curiosity, then with awe, the with affection.  When he saw my changed attitude, he began to change too.

   It is one of those times when a large miracle was brought about in simple ways, and in a short time. We were both so grateful for peace and harmony at last.  We are still at peace around here and it’s been about fourteen months since I first read the book. There are still some things we don’t approve of in each other, but we have learned tolerance and patience.

   This has been the greatest year of growth for the entire family that we have known in eleven years of marriage. My husband has not only become a better husband, but an incredibly better father. Our home at last has a strong foundation on which to build the kind of life we always dreamed of. This is why I continue to tell everyone about Fascinating Womanhood and give the book as gifts to my loves ones and friends hoping they will find the kind of treasure in this book I did. 

NOTE: Our testimonials only come from real contributors, most of whom prefer to remain anonymous. The images we use in association with anonymous stories are just stock supply. We encourage you to share your story so the entire community can grow and benefit. We promise to keep your details as anonymous as you desire. Thank you to all you fascinating women out there who continue to contribute. You are changing the world!

I Abandoned My Original Ideal of Romantic Love

Richard Forsyth

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~ From an Anonymous Contributor

   We looked like the model couple on the outside, but there was so much emptiness it hurt. We were not really unhappy, but neither were we truly happy. I had come to abandon my original idea of romantic love in marriage. However, I still prayed occasionally for ways to improve our stagnant marriage.

   Shortly thereafter, a friend introduced me to Fascinating Womanhood and loaned me her book. I bought and read the book and since have spread my enthusiasm to others. My marriage is now so perfect that it’s hard to find a chance to practice childlikeness, there are so few moments of friction! I now enjoy a tender love from my husband which he had never shown before.

   A friend, who was on the verge of divorce, borrowed my book. Her husband had given her thirty days grace before he would leave. He told her to sell their house and said he did not love her anymore after thirteen years of marriage. She was guilty of many serious mistakes. But she recognized them and was willing to work hard to save her marriage. Several months have passed now and, although their problems are not over, they have come a long way from their bed of troubles. I know of many other instances here in town where the advice in Fascinating Womanhood has been put to good use. How thankful we all are!

NOTE: Our testimonials only come from real contributors, most of whom prefer to remain anonymous. The images we use in association with anonymous stories are just stock supply. We encourage you to share your story so the entire community can grow and benefit. We promise to keep your details as anonymous as you desire. Thank you to all you fascinating women out there who continue to contribute. You are changing the world!

I Decided That I Would Never Marry

Richard Forsyth

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~ From an Anonymous Contributor

   I grew up in an unhappy family. Mom and Dad were always fighting. Many nights I cried myself to sleep, hoping and praying they would stop fighting and love each other. As a result of my parents’ unhappy marriage, I decided that I would never marry. I knew I didn’t have the knowledge necessary for a successful, happy marriage, and I didn’t want another child to live in the battlegrounds as I had.

   One day about two years ago, I changed my mind about marriage and about men’s and women’s roles in life. After years of doing everything I could to discourage boyfriends, I began encouraging them. I stopped competing with men and became more feminine. I even changed my college major to one more suitable for my new feminine self. I was happier than I had ever been. I was in love with life.

   What brought about this change? A wonderfully perceptive roommate saw what was wrong with my attitude about life and gave her copy of Fascinating Womanhood to read. I still have to work hard and there are things I forget, but the last year has been the happiest of my life. I have been married about a year to the world’s most perfect husband. I wonder how I get thought I couldn’t make a marriage work. Thank you with all my heart.

   Fascinating Womanhood has given me my most prized possession—a happy, contented husband.

   As for Mom and Dad, your book is helping them have a happier marriage too. Mom has read Fascinating Womanhood and is working hard to get her marriage working right. Last night Daddy bought her a new stove that she had mentioned she’d like to have. The change in this marriage makes me thrill. May God bless you and may Fascinating Womanhood come into the hands of every woman in the world.

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The Change is Overwhelming!

Richard Forsyth

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~ From an Anonymous Contributor

During the past few weeks I have been taking a Fascinating Womanhood class. The results in my own home are remarkable. My husband and I are both Christians and very active in our church but even so, our marriage seemed rapidly heading for divorce. I knew I needed help so I secretly started seeing a psychiatrist, had many counseling sessions with our pastor, and finally a marriage counselor, and still continued having deep, prolonged depressions, lasting for days.

   I happened to see a lovely lady at the beauty shop with an F.W. book. She told me about the classes, so I enrolled. I have learned more from those classes than all the professional counseling sessions put together! The change in our home is almost overwhelming! My husband can’t seem to do enough for me. For the first time in twelve years of marriage, he has taken over the bill paying, has started to do the yard and gardening, and wants to do some home improvements.

   I seemed to always get stuck with driving our pickup, which I hated to drive. He has now put it up for sale and is buying a small car for me to drive! He has become more devoted to our church, and instead of complaining of my activity, he says he is proud of me! He is a real estate broker and his business has increased to the point our accountant says it’s going to be a profitable year! His formula: A successful church life and a successful home equal a successful business. I am so thankful for Fascinating Womanhood.

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Girlishness (aka Childlikeness) Works!

Richard Forsyth

~ From an Anonymous Contributor

About two weeks ago I was making small talk with Scot. We were discussing a local tick problem, which included the children's dental hygienist who had removed a tick from her 16 year old daughter that morning, making her late for work.

"So Amy's an older woman?" He's a detail guy.

"Well, she's probably my age." I replied, assuming he considers me youngish.

His response was an affirmative grunt.

"You think I'm old! You meanie!" I exclaimed, honestly ruffled at the thought. Walking away from the kitchen where we were to our bedroom I began to clean while sorting how to handle the situation. I was offended. Girlish response isn't natural for me, but it popped into my head to try it.

Scot's heavy boots thumped toward our bedroom as I continued hanging clothes. He had to leave for work and leaned in to say goodbye.

"You don't want to kiss an 'older woman'!" I bristled with a pout. "I should have burnt your breakfast burrito, you brute!" I continued with a stomp of my foot. He smiled and tried to pinch me. (That's when I knew it was working!)

Tossing my hair I stepped back playfully from his pinches. "I think I'll just burn your spaghetti tonight, you hairy beast!"

He was giggling by now and reaching for me very inappropriately which made me feel anything but old in his presence.

Spanking him as he turned with the dress I was hanging I told him he'd better get to work.

Benefits of girlishness response that day:

1. Tension disappeared, relationship restored; not only that, but chemistry was enhanced bc of the interchange.

2. He was totally amused and learned coming to me (hopefully will continue to) brings positive response, not sulkiness and pouting which is very natural to me.

3. I got what I wanted which was affirmation he is attracted to me and doesn't consider me 'old'. The flirting was fun!

4. He learned he would have spaghetti for supper which he loves. (Unburnt, if he behaved. ??) 

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He's Happy for the First Time

Richard Forsyth

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~ From an Anonymous Contributor

   Our marriage had been good but the overly strong leadership exerted by my husband has often made me feel resentful of his demands.  After learning more fully through Fascinating Womanhood of the responsibilities he faces and the need he has of my support and admiration, I tried closing the gaps of my misunderstandings.  I thanked him for being the hard worker he is. I apologized for pushing my ideas too hard and told him that even though I sometimes had not shown it, I always knew underneath that his judgment was usually right.  I also turned over our three teenagers to him without reservation, a way I’d never been able to do before.

   There was no immediate reaction. However, one evening when I most needed to hear it, he unexpectedly said to me, “I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately, and I want you to know how happy I am with you and that I trust you completely.”

   Never in twenty-two years of marriage has he referred to himself as happy! I don’t think that is something he expected out of life. For him to express these feelings gave me the first experience of “Celestial Love” since courting days.

   As far as his relationship with the children, recently he has been telling his friends jokingly, “Being a parent is a full-time job!” And more seriously to me, “I don’t know why I’m so suddenly so involved, but I am so much closer to the kids than I’ve ever been.”

   Thank you, Fascinating Womanhood, for helping me understand what it means to be a real woman, I’ve found a new peace, happiness and fulfillment in all I do. 

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You’re Nicer to Me Lately

Richard Forsyth

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~ From an Anonymous Contributor

   There's been this thing I've been trying to change in my husband for several years. I don't tell anyone about it because I don't want to dishonor or embarrass him. This is a closed group and I don't know any of you personally so I'll share.

   He took up chewing tobacco 4 1/2 or 5 years ago and he knows I don't like it. I've suggested alternatives, threatened, nagged, given cold shoulder, pressured him to change etc. It would only cause him to dip more and distance himself when I put the pressure on. 

   Reminded of Fascinating Womanhood last month, I picked it up again after years of forgetfully neglecting the principles; the 'accept him' chapter I remembered once I dusted my memory a bit but took a while to re-process. Embracing Fascinating Womanhood meant accepting him. Period. The good, the bad, the everything. Not approving, but accepting. And surrendering him to God while limiting my influence to my feminine role as his wife, his woman, his cheerleader, his help-meet. Choosing to focus on appreciating and admiring the good and noble and honorable in him while turning a dim eye to this less than desirable habit. 

   Since then I have determined to accept, appreciate, admire, and keep a 'love journal' to note positive responses. 

   Being this kind of woman brings a lot of joy! It's been awhile since I've felt so happy and fulfilled pertaining to our marriage! We are both enjoying it.

   Monday morning, we woke up and he said, "I took my last dip yesterday at 1 o’clock." I sat there wondering why he was telling me he'd taken his last dip in the pool, so off-my-radar was the whole chewing tobacco topic to me and so unexpected at this point. I wasn't even thinking about it anymore much less excepting him to say he's quitting. Sitting there continuing to rub his socked foot a bit I blinked when I realized what he meant by 'dip'. Not a pool 'dip', but tobacco 'dip'. He was saying he was quitting tobacco. I had waited for YEARS to hear those words, yet rather than responding as I thought I would with tears of joy, as it sunk in it rather surprised me how removed I'd become on the subject. My focus had shifted from the habit to the man. I was finding so much admiration and appreciation for the man (thanks Fascinating Womanhood!) that the habit dimmed in comparison. 

   He's on day four of quitting. Tobacco is tough to quit; a grueling process. At this point, whether he succeeds in quitting or not I will, by the grace and help of God, continue to live Fascinating Womanhood and stop being the fault-finding, nagging, critical wife he knew quite well awhile back.

   I don't know if having his wife live Fascinating Womanhood inspired him to quit. Quite possibly there was some other motivating factor. I'm not trying to live Fascinating Womanhood to get my husband to change. I'm seeing my need to change. Which seems to be where the problem was in the first place. 

   He keeps going back to the phrase, “You’re nicer to me lately”. 

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He Ruled with an Iron Hand

Richard Forsyth

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~ From an Anonymous Contributor,

My husband had a very insecure childhood. Consequently, he grew up desperately trying to prove himself a man, yet so afraid of marriage and women that he didn’t marry until he was thirty.

   I, too, was insecure and didn’t know how to be a woman. I tried to treat him as an equal and discuss all our problems. The result? Disaster!

   We were both college graduates. He is a lawyer. I was determined to be a perfect wife and had taken several classes in college to help me become such. I read everything I could lay my hands on about marriage, love, homemaking and raising children. He had an inherent dislike and distrust of all psychology and all magazine articles and anyone’s ideas but his own.

   He has an overwhelming ability to out think and out-talk anyone. I had a college minor in psychology and a degree in elementary education, and could handle myself very well in any conversation. Yet, three years later I was stuttering.

   To keep me in my place and to make himself feel secure, he ruled with an iron hand. There were certain clauses in our “marriage agreement” (all to his advantage). I was to bake bread, keep the house clean, raise the children, never charge anything and only work outside the home under dire necessity.

   All of these items appealed to me. We were both from the farm, and were very religious. By the time I heard of Fascinating Womanhood, eight years after marriage, I was on the verge of a nervous breakdown with three children, and were both far from happy.

 I had tried everything I had read and still my husband was overly critical, refused to ever raise a hand to help with the children or the house, refused to ever utter those precious words, “I love you,” and threatened constantly to “turn me in on a new model”. He kept me on a bare subsistence budget and when any of the children were sick, he ignored us completely.

Now to the success part: F.W. seemed to be the only way to help my husband be human. I had discovered that behind his bravado, bold talk and strict rules was a very insecure man and a small ego—but how to reach it.

   When I tried to build up his ego, as Fascinating Womanhood suggested, he would lash out at me, or suspect my motives, or ignore me completely.  I had tried for eight years to please him and was still rejected at every turn.

   For four months I read and re-read your book and thought it over. Finally, after talking to my sister who has similar problems, we came up with this solution. As we read F.W. we would get ideas of our husbands’ good points and strengths and of the areas they needed to be built up. On a note pad we would write down notes to our husbands, not saying “I love you”, as we had before, but “I admire you for…”. Then would follow a specific reason or illustration of something they had done recently. These went, one at a time each day in their lunches.

   A good many people have an adverse reaction to praise, especially those who really need it—the insecure individuals who can’t believe anything good about themselves.  So I prepared. My husband had been 30 years building up walls against people, and I had been 8 years trying to tear them down with love and long-suffering.  I let him walk all over me and obeyed his every wish and made myself sick trying to change my personality to suit him when he, himself, didn’t know what suited him. I certainly didn’t expect to build up his ego overnight!

   This is how it went: The first month went by and he said, “By all means, don’t forget to put the note in my lunch,” or, “You’re such a nut,” or “You won’t be happy all day if you forget.” He would not acknowledge the fact that they had any impression on him.

   Second month: He was coming home with a smile now! He had been coming home as black as thunder, giving the house a black atmosphere, patting the children on the head and then hiding in his den until supper, only to return there immediately afterwards to stay until bedtime.  “You forgot the note in my lunch. Well, I’ll wait long enough for you to put it in.” He would admit it meant something to him now.

   Third month: He’d let me say something nice to him without biting my head off or suspecting my motives, but his answer was still as it always had been, “Everybody knows how great I am,” or “So what else is new”? But I would giggle like a little girl and he would grin from ear to ear. By the sixth month, he was letting me kiss him hello! He used to duck. He was telling me a thing or two about what went on that day! He was actually hanging around the stove saying, “Can I help”?

   By then I sometimes forgot to keep enough notes written ahead of time, so I’d miss mornings or just write “I love you,” which doesn’t do much for him or his ego. The important thing was that it must build his ego. I began to see him slowly change back, so I quickly got a drawer full of notes ready again.

   It has been over a year since I started this procedure. My husband is still not perfect but he does not see the messy house, or criticize me in front of his friends and parents. He occasionally offers to help and stays out of his den to play with the children while I fix supper.

   He looks hurt if I don’t rush up to him and kiss him as soon as he comes in the door.

   I am still a little weak in living Fascinating Womanhood, and suspect that’s why my husband still has some hang-ups in loving me, but life is so absolutely gorgeous compared to what it was! 

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