~ From an Anonymous Contributor,
I was so happy on my wedding day. Somehow, my husband was stronger, braver, and more chivalrous than I ever dared hope for. Yet things rapidly went wrong. So much so that after only one year of marriage we were planning to live entirely separate lives. He would have one room of our house to live in alone and I would have the rest of the house for myself and our son. The only reason we didn’t separate completely was because he said he couldn’t afford to run two houses.
I remember him saying sadly one evening, “I want to come home to a woman.” This hurt, but I didn’t really understand what he meant. Then, I remember thinking, “From the bottom of my heart I wish I knew how to be a wife.” I really had no idea what I should do.
Shortly after this, I found Fascinating Womanhood in a local bookstore. Amazingly, I actually had enough money in my purse to buy it, though we were very poor at the time. I can hardly describe how I felt when I first read it. I can only say it spoke to my heart. I didn’t need any convincing of the truth of the teachings. During the year of applying the teachings the following incidents come to mind:
Applying the seemingly small principle of joy in bearing children: I was pregnant at the time with our second child, enjoying it deeply. I was sitting down one evening with no shoes on. Here I must add that my feet are the largest size in lady’s footwear. I have bunions and hammertoes and, in short, my feet are not my best feature. My husband suddenly got up from his chair, sank to his knees and, while still on his knees, walked across the room and kissed my feet! Evidently, that moment of my contented serenity in my condition moved him deeply. The fact that my feet are not beautiful made it even more meaningful.
Another incident stands out. Our house was in poor decorative condition and in need of repair. This used to upset me. One day, using the principle of childlikeness, I said simply, “Can I have some money to make the house nice?” He smiled and said, “OK, will two hundred dollars be alright?” I said with childlikeness, “Oh no! Two hundred dollars isn’t enough. I need two thousand dollars.” We were lacking basic kitchen amenities and other costly items. I also knew he had made an unusually large profit on his business. To my amazement he said, “OK, when do you want it?” Shortly after this, he insisted on buying me a car, so I could have some freedom. This made me feel loved and understood.
Another remarkable incident was when his work caused him to live away from home for sixteen months. He was compelled to take this job and I must say, I was rather worried as to how it would affect our marriage. This time, the principles of making sure he felt needed and he had my full support in doing what he felt was necessary came to my rescue. When I put into words how much I needed him, I realized how profoundly true it was. How would I manage without his strong arm to lean on? He assured me that he would telephone and come home regularly. When the time came he was more than true to his word.
My dear husband, in his concern for us, phoned us every day he was away (except one day that I was supposed to call him) to check that we were all right. This was a great comfort to me in his absence and I could ask his advice whenever I needed it. In addition, he came home every weekend. He calculated that he drove about 24,000 miles to come home during that time. For a man who dislikes long distance driving, this is truly remarkable. With the help of Fascinating Womanhood, I have become the real woman he longed to come home to.
However, even after twelve years of FW, it is a real challenge for me. I still have trouble with being overweight due to a sugar dependency. I also have a battle with anger—I grew up in a dirty, ugly home, although my Mum earned a good salary. I interpreted the awful food and dirt as lack of love, and became rebellious as a teenager. I turned to drugs and sex and was, in fact, pregnant on my wedding day. But, with Fascinating Womanhood, I not only found married happiness beyond my dreams, the journey to become fascinating led me to my faith. Thank you is a very small phrase for such a big gift!
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