My father, Aubrey Andelin, wrote a book "Man of Steel and Velvet" to men that talked about the ideal man being a combination of strength and tenderness. His main message was to inspire masculinity. He insisted when he wrote his book in the 70's that the times demanded excellent and masculine men more than ever before. This message is even timelier today.
We have a key role and a great power in inspiring men to be men. My father would be dismayed if he were still alive to see the invalidation of manliness and the blurring of genders rampant in the world. He would recognize the loss of masculinity as a significant contributor to the current divorce rate and loss of romance in relationships.
Men today are often portrayed as inept, incompetent and weak. They are challenged or undermined when they try to stand up and take masculine roles and responsibility. They may be told masculinity is "toxic" and unwanted. Do we really want men to become a weak version of a masculine woman? We can do something about this.
We need men to be masculine, to defend our countries, our families, be strong fathers to our children and provide leadership and substance.
Some women claim that to inspire more masculinity will bring out the worst in men. All men don't live in the basement. Many men have character; they respect women and want to be chivalrous and kind.
Feminine women have the power to inspire men to be more male. When a man feels supported in his identity and role, it makes him feel good about himself. It will also deepen his love for you.
This is a critical part of developing a deeply romantic marriage. Magic happens as the good men you love and respect gradually become what you believe they really are. Loving relationships have the best chance of enduring when men feel accepted, admired, understood and supported.