I recently saw an article online with the subject of women getting permission from their husbands before plans to go somewhere or do something.
The woman who wrote the piece said when she told a friend she needed to check with her husband before committing to a girls night out, the friend rolled her eyes. She said something like "Really? You need your husband's permission? My husband and I never ask for permission. I just do my thing and he does his thing".
The interchange bothered the woman in question enough she wrote a list of all the reasons she chooses to include her husband in even seemingly minor decisions.
Her perspective was great and includes:
1. Asking permission is a sign of respect
2. Asking permission ensures less conflict
3. Both husband and wife feel empowered
4. It enables better decision making as a couple
5. It keeps you engaged in each others' lives
These reasons are right on target. Today, perhaps because of the increasingly suspicious and caustic attitude of some women toward men, it might be advisable to simply say "I need to check with my husband and get his support" rather than use the word "permission".
Permission is a perfectly good word. I looked up the meaning and it does fit in this situation. I'm afraid that it, like some other words, has been tainted. To some women today, "permission" means a master/slave mentality. Perhaps using the phrase "I'd like to get his support" might get the message across without also getting an eye roll. She could also have added "We enjoy working and playing together as a team".
- Post by DAF
Original article: http://sixseeds.patheos.com/ashleywillis/5-reasons-why-i-ask-for-my-husbands-permission/