You’ve Just Been Passed By A Girl
The other day I was driving on the freeway. The pickup in front of me had an interesting bumper sticker that read “You’ve Just Been Passed by a Girl”. I was curious to see just who was driving the truck. Was it even a girl? If it was, why would she advertise such a competitive phrase, obviously meant for men?
I gradually sped up to pass her. It was a young woman who looked like she was in her early 20’s. She was very pretty and on her cell phone (surprise). What prompted her to slap that bumper sticker on her vehicle?
The phrase is obviously competitive; the kind a man might use to try to hook another’s ego. The only reasonable explanation I could think of was she hoped her bumper sticker would be found amusing by young, attractive men. Perhaps it would even cause them to be interested in such an aggressive woman. I suppose there are some immature guys who might respond to her message. But if she thinks this behavior is attractive to most guys, the mature ones anyway, she does not understand men. Who wants an immature boy? Putting aside the fact that many of the people she passes are women and not men, I find the phrase slightly annoying but mostly sad.
Men don’t need us to be more like them. There are plenty of men in the world. They need and are fascinated by a feminine woman, one who is different. There aren’t enough of that kind of woman. The more we emphasize the differences between us, the more we feel at home with ourselves and the more we are attractive to masculine men. We don’t make very good men and they sure don’t make good women.