"It is love, not reason, that is stronger than death" ~ Thomas Mann
There are many kinds of love: love of God, love of friends and children, even books, pizza, movies, you name it. We use this word to describe our feelings about many things. We even use it in a way that actually defines lust, not love. Relationships where sex is the main glue do not actually need real love as an ingredient at all so are doomed to fade and disintegrate over time. The kind of love I am focusing on is the deepest kind; incandescent and eternal romantic love; the kind that lasts not only a lifetime but beyond. It can endure separation, death and all the hardships of life. The joy it brings is unfathomable. No joy is more satisfying to both sexes.
So what is this kind of love? It is deep, faithful and true; it can lift you to heights you never imagined both emotionally and spiritually but also intellectually. It is unconditional, cherishing, valuing, respecting; enjoying each others' company and friendship whether you are doing something special or nothing at all. It is honoring each other and combines deep emotional as well as physical intimacy. There is knowledge that you are each other's number one priority; each others' number one confidant. You know each other's deepest desires, fears, and dreams and still feel safe. You know each other's faults and still feel totally cherished. This kind of love includes passion but doesn't feed on it. Its deepest attribute is care for the one loved. When you truly love, you feel alive as never before. I'm not talking about infatuation that contains the seeds of eternal love but is only its infant. Without maturity it will wither and die.
Infatuation feels great because it is a promise of real romantic love yet possible. Many people believe infatuation is all there is to love and when it fades, so does the relationship. They think love has died. They do not see the huge vista just beyond the horizon. Does it sound impossible to attain? It's not! You haven't learned everything yet about this most priceless human emotion. Many people have enjoyed deep romantic love though most are not famous and of course, don't broadcast their love for each other publically, for it is intensely private. We know some of these stories because of personal histories and others from people we have known. Some have never witnessed such a relationship but it is possible! It's just not as common as it could be.
You don't hold all the cards but you have access to enough. You can foster the deepest love to be planted and grow bottomless roots that will wind around both your hearts forever. If this sounds like a fantasy, it isn't. I know because I have it, my parents had it and I know others who do too.
This is an excerpt from the brand new book soon to be released, Fascinating Womanhood for the Timeless Woman. It is the sequel the international bestselling book (Fascinating Womanhood) my mother first published in 1963. It helped hundreds of thousands of women achieve a level of romantic love in their marriages they never thought possible.