“Being love just as you are is the greatest currency on earth. It is immeasurable in value and can never truly be repaid”~ Fawn Weaver
Some women marry a man and think of him as a “diamond in the rough” or “What a man he will be when he’s been around me for awhile”. Actually, most of us don't consciously think either of these things. We’re too nice to do that. Our intentions are almost always good but over time, we fall into the bad habit of trying to change the man we love. If I'm thinking he's a slug who needs to be changed, it's very different than if I believe he is a great man now and treat him like one.
Presuming to change someone is different than inspiring them to be make changes in themselves. One is manuplative; the other is totally supportive and based on real belief in their great worth and value as a person. We don’t realize it is actually damaging to the relationship to suppose to change another person. Don’t you hate it when someone sets out to transform you; to tell you what is wrong with you and how you should follow their good example? Not a good idea. Most people rightly fight against it.
It's wonderful to feel accepted and loved for who you are now. Everyone knows no one is perfect, yet we often expect it, especially of those we love the most. Each of us has the power to change ourselves, not others.
When you work on yourself, not your husband, boyfriend or others in your life, it takes a tremendous burden off you. The expectation that you must change anyone is daunting and you won’t be appreciated for it. Seldom, if ever, do people enjoy someone telling them their faults. Since it doesn’t work, this approach is a lifetime pursuit of disappointment. Acceptance of anyone, especially the one you love, will bring you happiness and freedom from the need to try to change that person.