~ By Helen Andelin,
When a man is angry with his wife, how does she respond? There is a tendency for her to be angry in return. If he raises his voice, she raises hers. This is a human tendency. But, such a response could destroy her femininity.
How should she respond? With childlikeness? This is one response—sauciness or teasing playfulness is perfect in many situations. But there are other methods when childlikeness is not the first answer. There is also a feminine response.
The feminine response to a man’s anger is to first realize he has a right to be angry, just as you do on other occasions. We must accept his anger as human and allow him to express it, as long as it doesn’t become abusive. If you try to prevent his anger, you only frustrate him and make it worse. Remember, it doesn’t matter whether his anger is justified or not. If he thinks it is, then his anger is just as real, just as much in need of expression as if it were justified.
If you can control your emotions with the above attitude, then you can respond in a feminine way, a way that will enhance your femininity. This response is a gentle response. It is a tender quality in women. In your gentleness, apologize for anything you might have done to offend him. Ask forgiveness. If you do, you will disarm him and will emphasize your femininity.
But, if you find his anger arouses emotion in you, if you find that his anger is difficult to deal with and you do not feel you can respond in a gentle way, do not become discouraged. You can respond with childlikeness—either sauciness or teasing playfulness, the one that best fits the situation.
We are all human and have weaknesses and strengths. By using the principles of Fascinating Womanhood, you will find you are able to handle normal, healthy anger in a charming way that will actually strengthen your marriage.