~ From an Anonymous Contributor,
My husband has had “woman trouble” all of his life First, his mother drove him to distraction and later I did more than my share. She had a genuine contempt for men and succeeded very well in making my husband feel resentful, even when he was a small boy. Naturally, as he grew older these feelings intensified and he reached adulthood with the motto: “Reject and humiliate women before they have a chance to do the same to you.”
Later, I came into the picture, accustomed to gentleness, daily compliments, and every sort of cheerful kindness. This is the way my father treated my mother and I expected a triple dose (at least!) of this same chivalry from my husband.
Instead of chivalry, I received ridicule, harshness, neglect and even physical mistreatment. The poison his mother had planted was doing its work. This was before I had heard of Fascinating Womanhood, so I didn’t know how to respond. Instead, I vowed; “I’ll give it back to him as fast as he can dish it out!” And I did!
At least once a week there was a horrible screaming argument and every day our conversation consisted of nothing but the most barbed sarcasm we could produce. The physical abuse still continued. Once I even found it necessary to call the police but my husband ripped the phone cord out of the wall as I was dialing. Finally, things got so bad I locked myself in our bathroom and tried to slash my wrists. My husband broke down the door and dragged me to the local hospital. I was there for several months during which time I had electric shock treatments.
Later, we both had psychiatric counseling and my husband improved a lot, but the damage was done—I was anything but fascinating. I kept comparing him to my father, for example.
Then I began to attend these marvelous classes and now everything is so much happier and simpler. I exchanged my old attitudes for new ones; malice for sympathy, ridicule for understanding and indifference for admiration. I have applied the principles of femininity and gotten chivalry in return.
The most valuable lesson in the whole of Fascinating Womanhood for me was the section on childlikeness. It is wonderful to be able to channel my anger properly so that I receive from my husband a delighted chuckle instead of a temper tantrum! During the two months of the Fascinating Womanhood course, I have been showered with presents, compliments and attention! Obviously, my husband is convinced that I’m really for him and no longer against him.