The Pillow Fight
We had just experienced one of those terrible weekends where every flick of an eyelash is misinterpreted and the tension is so thick you could cut it with a knife. So my husband could have the peace and quiet he wanted, I took our 5-year-old to the park and kept her until dinner time then quickly rushed her home to bed.
Very soon afterward, I dejectedly, resentfully, and tearfully, crawled into bed with my Fascinating Womanhood book. What should I read but the part about sauciness. I didn’t have any idea about how to be saucy and I didn’t have any curls to toss. Try to imagine me sitting up in bed, talking to myself about what I would say and practicing sauciness. I became so involved that I completely forgot about my resentment and began to laugh at myself.
When my husband came to bed, I popped up with a pout on my face and said saucily, “I hope you have enjoyed your old peace and quiet because I have been utterly miserable.” He was so amused that he picked up a pillow and threw it at me. I threw it back and we had a good laugh. He said he realized he’d been unfair and he would take our child to the park the next weekend and I could have the “old peace and quiet.” Without Fascinating Womanhood, I’m afraid this story would have had a different ending. Through sauciness, there was a happy ending.
NOTE: These examples of childlikeness or, sauciness, can release tension and change the mood to humor and playfulness quickly. It’s charming, feminine and is a part of feminine power that my mother talked about and I also include in my new book soon to be released. As we all understand and practice this response, most everyday hurts and irritations will end up strengthening our relationships rather than straining them. If you have already read Fascinating Womanhood, you know this skill is not appropriate for all circumstances, including deep hurts, infidelity or abuse.