~ By DAF
"Physical attractions are common. But a mental connection is rare. You need substance to your sexy"~ Anonymous
Lots of people place great stock in "chemistry" in a relationship. We talk about "sparks flying," an instant connection" or "bonding" with another person. Ever heard of "love at first sight?" Chemistry is important but is only the very beginning of potential for lasting, deep celestial love. It signals a possibility for it; it doesn't herald it or form the substance of it.
Chemistry occurs in the beginning of teen crushes that come and go like the waves of the sea. Some people say they have no idea why they "fell in love" and will fall out of love just as easily. They imply it's like magic; it comes and goes at will without any act or thought on anyone's part. Have you ever heard: "I can't help who I fall in love with"?
There’s that word "love" again. What it actually means is something more like, "I can't help who I find attractive," but nothing really more. It's often a chemical response. Your body can have this reaction in the absence of love. It may just be a temporary Oxytocin rush.
There is no such thing as "love at first sight." Not deep romantic lasting love anyway. What is felt is more like infatuation, the potential promise of a deeper love. Life-long intimacy doesn't hit you like a boulder and then one day just disappears. When chemistry is the main glue that holds a relationship together, it can't last when the enduring part of love is left out and not nurtured. Nurturing includes serving the other person, sacrifice and actually getting to know the other person's heart and soul. It is strengthened by successfully going through hard experiences together.
Some people say you must have sex with a person to see if you are compatible. Sex is the least important part of a relationship; it puts the cart before the horse, it’s like putting your underwear on top of your clothes. Human beings aren't so different that you must find out if you "work" together sexually or else a disaster is imminent.
If you don't have a foundation of intellectual (you actually know the person), emotional (you like the person) and spiritual intimacy (you share the deepest meanings of your lives), then trying to create a relationship built on a foundation of physical chemistry won't last. It cannot survive the ravages of time, health problems, and the endless challenges life presents to everyone.
For true romantic love to exist and flourish, it must be grounded and sustained on the foundation of character and the levels of intimacy, the last and least important being physical chemistry. It's not that sex is unimportant but it's not the most important thing.
When your love is appropriately founded and developed, chemistry will not only endure but deepen over time in spite of all the difficulties you will face. In other words, it gets even better.
With Fascinating Womanhood you can go way beyond chemistry. You will have all the feminine tools you’ll need to develop a lifelong love affair with your husband.