Sue was a beautiful woman. Everyone who knew her though she had it all--a handsome, successful husband, two attractive children and a stunning home. She also had a great marriage. She and her husband Jason went on regular dates and loved spending time together. Yet, like many women, she took him for granted in many ways.
One day, he didn’t come home. He was tragically killed in a car accident. Sue’s life changed forever. She grieved the loss of her beloved husband deeply and found it extremely difficult to adjust to life without him. She realized very quickly how much she had taken him for granted, even though their relationship was very positive.
She began to notice other women and how they would complain about their husbands. They didn’t like this or that annoying habit or thoughtless behavior. She realized she had been irritated by some of her husband’s routines. He used to leave his wet towel on the floor of the bathroom, which irked her and seldom put his shoes away. Sue confided to a close friend she would give anything to have any of his weaknesses, even more, if only she could be with him again.
It’s easy to take someone for granted. We all tend to do it once in awhile, especially with the ones we love most. One of the unique secrets of Fascinating Womanhood is that a byproduct of our feminine behavior actually helps us lessen the tendency to take him, or anyone we love, for granted. We do this as we learn to make him number one, understand and admire him and truly appreciate his strengths—not just focus on his weaknesses. We also learn to be grateful for him every day because we not only know him, but feel lucky to have found such a wonderful man.
How do you treat the man you feel lucky to be married to? When you know something is valuable, you take care of it. What did you see in him when you said you would marry him? Is any of it still there? Perhaps the weaknesses you now see seem in the forefront. But perhaps his faults were always there; you just saw his strengths. Perhaps his positive qualities are still there. Does the fact that you see some faults diminish his core value? Not at all. After all, your mistakes don’t diminish yours.
We all have to work in order not to take those we love for granted. One of the great beauties of learning and living the principles of Fascinating Womanhood is that it helps you take others for granted much less. As we see the beauty and true value of those we feel affection for, we will bring so much love into our relationships. And to ourselves. Not taking others for granted brings great peace as well as joy.