~ By DAF
Years ago, when I was about 16 years old, I told my mom I hoped to marry a really great man. I wanted him to be handsome, smart, ambitious and also spiritual. She gave me advice that changed my life. The timeless principle I learned was how much responsibility I have to become a truly fascinating woman in order to prepare myself to attract and be comfortable with the man I was dreaming of.
She handed me a piece of paper and told me to write down everything I wanted in a man. That was fun. I remember writing a nice long list that went to the end of the paper. I showed it to her and she smiled.
Then she handed the paper back to me and said “Now, turn it over and on the back side write down every quality that this “dream man” would most likely want in a woman. Oh dear. Reality. I didn’t even think of that part.
As I thought about it, it wasn’t hard to realize what a man like that would deserve, even if he didn’t realize he wanted it. It took me much longer to write that list but I finally finished. I admit, it wasn’t as long as my “ideal man” list—but it was long enough. Then I sighed. I knew I had a lot of growing up and work to do. Maybe that’s why I worked so hard to learn to sew and cook. I still feel I got lucky when I married Bob.
Since then, I’ve noticed how many young women talk about what kind of man they want to marry. They often mention they want him to have money, looks, sense of humor and ambition. I thought of the young woman I used to be and found myself hoping those pretty girls understood that if they want to not only marry but have the adoration of this amazing man, they will need to fit with him.
If you are fortunate enough to marry a man who has money, looks, brains and is also honorable, that doesn’t mean the marriage will be strong. The most important part we as women can do is to work on ourselves—be the woman that this wonderful guy will deserve and that we will feel is our match. Just finding someone to marry us isn’t the answer. It can still end in unhappiness. If you practice the principles of Fascinating Womanhood, you will have the best chance possible to not only attract a great man, but also win his heart. You have then built a solid foundation for your lifelong love affair.