~ By Dixie Andelin Forsyth
When I was dating Bob and we began to be serious about each other, he confided in me one night “I have a secret to tell you that I have never told anyone---I tend to be lucky.”
I had never heard anyone say that before but I loved it. I wondered “Why does he feel lucky all the time? Is it true?”
Well, I found out the answer even before we got married. We were engaged and he had applied for a summer job in Canada at a big resort as a bell boy (he’s Canadian). He had worked there before, got good tips and it was a gorgeous place to live as well as work. He didn’t get the job. I wondered if he still felt lucky. He did! I learned a lot from him that day and for all the years we’ve been together since. He feels lucky, and tends to get lucky, because he is not only optimistic but grateful (he got another job, just as he figured). So…how does this apply to Fascinating Womanhood?
There are always hundreds of things to be grateful for and appreciate in our husbands. What do you love about him? What qualities does he have? Allow yourself to think and feel appreciation and admiration for this man you married.
Bob tells me that every morning, before he gets up (he’s an early riser), he lies in bed and for about 10 minutes or so he thinks of as many things as he can that he is thankful for, starting with his health, his body and so on. He not only thinks about feeling gratitude, but he allows himself to feel the gratitude---not just think it. Then he moves on to thinking about and then feeling gratitude for others, starting with me (which makes me lucky😊) and then our children, moving on to friends, our country, etc. He’s found that the list is endless.
We have problems like everyone does. We have lost loved ones and have cried and prayed about many things, he is always optimistic and grateful. He is grateful, feels the gratitude and then his whole day is set up. He is pretty much always cheerful and happy. And he does tend to get lucky.
I’ve learned from him. Every day it’s easy to see how lucky I am to be married to Bob. The more I appreciate him, and tell him, the more I feel lucky.
In the end, we don’t really believe in luck. The secret is something different. Gratitude can change your perspective on anything. Feeling appreciation and admiration for the many good qualities about the man we married will tend to have a positive effect on our marriages. And in our lives.