~ By Dixie Andelin Forsyth, President of Fascinating Womanhood
I just read an article online about the newest feminist myth---the idea that is working to redefine and trivialize sex. Find it here:
One of its goal seems to be an attempt to include seduction in the the definition of “rape.” In this scenario, any woman who is seduced could consider it rape. If this expanded definition is successful, it not only further victimizes (and thus weakens) women, but it also vilifies average, and even good men. Most of us think of rape as a horrible crime, and it is when it's really rape we're talking about. But with new definitions that include seduction, there will soon be a “rape epidemic.” At the heart of the women’s movement today is a body of recklessly false information, and it’s not helping women.
This latest myth is being taught at university campuses, along with exaggerated statistics. For example, if you were to fill out a survey and were asked if you ever had sex with someone one night while drunk, and then the next day regretted it, that could be labeled rape. Wouldn’t that also mean that if a woman seduces a man, he can also claim he was raped? Just imagine how hesitant men will be if they think a rape accusation could happen with any false move or comment while on a date. Rape is a serious crime that carries potentially lengthy prison sentences and labeling a sex offender.
"The feminist establishment is not celebrating the empowerment of women. They act as though things are worse than ever and getting worse every day. I find this baffling, and it’s very destructive. It’s very harmful to the young women who are told to be victims and taught to be paranoid,” said Christina Hoff Sommers, resident scholar at the American Enterprise Institute. She addressed her fear for mothers of sons, as well as her theory that the purpose of many college classes is to tear down Western civilization.
When rape truly occurs, it can be devastating to a woman and we don't want to trivialize that in any way with this discussion. But being cavalier about changing the definition of rape to include things which are relatively harmless or even desirable by some women, like seduction, could do more damage than good. It potentially pumps water in to a toxic substance and changes its basic nature, rendering it something safer and more inert; something which is then easier to re-label as safe for consumption. Imagine a world where it is common for a woman to hope she will get raped on a date with a man she is attracted to and admires. Where women don't really know the difference between acceptable and unacceptable behavior because of the confusion we've caused with subjective definitions and social manipulation for political ends.
Women don’t need to be taught that we are so weak, helpless and easy to manipulate that we can’t take responsibility for anyone we have sex with. And we don’t need to be hearing it from feminists, who are supposed to be working for the benefit of women and society, not trying to tear them down.
As feminine women, we need to do all we can to protect the strength and character we innately have as females. And we need to stand up for all the many good men who are honorable, masculine and are trying to protect us.
Fascinating Womanhood is a Pro-Feminine movement, not a feminist movement. We believe in reclaiming femininity, inspiring masculinity, and working towards developing lifelong love affairs with the men we love, thereby strengthening our families which are the basic unit of our nations.