~ By Dixie Andelin Forsyth
My friend was in the hospital and I was worried about her. My husband, Bob, offered to go buy flowers at Sam’s Club while I finished getting ready. As he went to pay for them, a young female employee saw him and said, with concern in her voice, “Are you in trouble”? Bob knew, because of his profession as a neuropsychologist, that the girl was assuming a man alone, buying a large bunch of flowers was likely purchasing them to smooth things out due to being in trouble with his wife (me).
When he told me about it, I was perplexed. To me, there are many reasons a man might buy flowers. Not only is it nearly Mother’s Day, but don’t men buy flowers for birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, and funerals too?
Often a man’s best idea to fix a negative situation is to buy flowers. There are other things he could do, of course, but men aren’t as sensitive and tend to look for a simple and quick answer.
As women, there are many more options we consider when facing relationship problems and repair. We hold a very large key in finding solutions—not that the problem is necessarily our fault. But we are more sensitive and nurturing. We can make up for relationship handicaps better than men.
It’s like we have a large, very feminine, Fascinating Womanhood tool box. We have to be aware of the tools, of course, what they are and how and when to use them. But we have them.
Some of these tools include:
Understanding and admiring your man
Childlikeness and all the many other instruments Fascinating Womanhood offers.
Using these tools, you have the greatest chance of bringing out the best in your man. You are at your best when you implement these timeless principles.