~ By Dixie Andelin Forsyth
This article is a summary from a new book, “Sex Scandal: The Drive to Abolish Male and Female”, by Ashley McGuire
Feminists in the 1960’’s and 70’s argued that men and women are not inherently different. They claimed that the many differences between the sexes—beyond the undeniable anatomical ones—are simply the result of gender roles people are taught to fulfill, not of their natures as men and women.
For decades, gender theory gained steam, seeking the complete abolition of gender distinction in any way tied to the two sexes.
In 1963, my mother wrote Fascinating Womanhood followed by many other books such as The Total Woman, and then later, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. All these books hit a social nerve despite a growing effort to build a gender-neutral society.
Major advances in neurobiology, for example, unveiled just how differently men and women respond physically to intimacy. During intercourse, women release more oxytocin than men do. Oxytocin is the hormone that facilitates bonding between human beings, in particular between mothers and new babies and between heterosexual partners. It’s sometimes referred to as “the love hormone,” “the hug hormone,” the “cuddle hormone,” the “moral molecule,” and the “bliss hormone,” and is especially noted for the different roles it plays in female reproduction.
According to the American Psychological Association, “New studies are adding to a body of literature that shows oxytocin plays a key role in maternal bonding and social affiliation—what psychologist Shelley Taylor has labeled the ‘tend and befriend’ response, as opposed to the ‘fight or flight’ response.
So, science has a basic explanation for why women will stare at their phone after casual sex, hoping their partner will contact them, while men do not. “The phenomenon of oxytocin offers scientific explanation as to why after sex, women are left wondering if and when she will hear from a guy. All the while, guys are scrolling through Tinder on their couch, wondering if that chicken parmesan they ordered an hour ago is actually on its way”, wrote a woman for Elite Daily. She maintains that women are programmed to become emotionally attached in a way men are not. That’s why it’s so important to not have casual sex with a man. You need to first build a strong relationship that is founded on intellectual, emotional and spiritual intimacy before engaging in sex. It keeps us from unnecessarily having our hearts broken.
Multiple studies have also shown that women smile more than men and are more communicative. Women say more words than men in a given day, with one estimate putting the difference at about 20,000 to 7,000.
It has commonly been said that there is no such thing as a “male” or “female” brain. But Louann Brizendine, an ivy-educated neuropsychiatrist said, “Our brains are mostly alike. We are the same species, after all. But the differences can sometimes make it seem like we are worlds apart”, or to some, planets apart.
Culture may change, but reality doesn’t. Sex deniers sought to understand the complexities within the sexes. But they have completely overshot and now deny the very real differences that define us.
It is important for each of us, as women, to re-claim our innate femininity, inspire masculinity in the men in our lives and with this knowledge, work to build a lifelong romance with the man we love, our husbands.