~ By Dixie Andelin Forsyth
I keep hearing “studies show” that, though men might say they like the idea of dating an alpha female who makes more money than they do, the reality seems to be very different. Do you have to choose between love and ambition? Not if you understand and practice the principles of Fascinating Womanhood.
The article in the above link states that in a Match.com 2017 study on singles in America, men marked entrepreneur as the sexiest career a woman can have. The same survey said that 87% of men would be with a woman who made more than they did and nearly 90% wouldn’t mind if she were more educated. The survey also indicated that the more educated a man is, the more he desires a smart and educated partner.
But when it comes to who men actually ask out, the research looks quite different. While men might be verbally into the idea of better educated and intelligent woman, the fact is, in this study, if a girl out-performed him on a test, he expressed less romantic interest.
What’s interesting about all this information is that so many people seem to miss the real reasons why many men don’t seem to feel as comfortable with driven alpha females. They mistakenly think it’s because of men’s insecurity or feeling threatened by a strong woman.
What is the truth?
While being an alpha female and making a lot of money doesn’t, in itself, mean you can’t have a fabulous marriage, what’s more important to consider is how being in that position could potentially influence you as a woman. It’s certainly possible for any woman to maintain her perspective on femininity, charm and understanding men—but it can be more difficult.
For example, some women have told us that when they have been the soul bread-winner, they discover, over time, that they begin to treat their husbands differently— they are bossier, more “motherly” and less sensitive to his needs. It’s not that the men in their lives are suddenly not able to “handle” her making more and being assertive, but could it be that she is not as feminine, charming and supportive? Does she treat him differently? Of course she does.
So, should we avoid being “in charge”, running our own businesses, etc., even if we are alpha females? No, but it depends on you. You will have to be more aware of and careful to monitor your own attitudes and behaviors. Relationship deterioration can be slow and occur without clear evidence. You can be a feminine, charming and supportive female who understands men, no matter what you do. But you will need to be constantly self-aware of your attitudes and behaviors.
Understanding and practicing Fascinating Womanhood is the best approach in learning how to treat a man. Your dedication to being feminine and understanding masculine pride has such a huge impact on your relationships, your marriage and family. It will make the difference between a failed relationship or a lifelong love affair.