~ By Dixie Andelin Forsyth
When some women read the chapter in Fascinating Womanhood on radiant happiness, they may mistakenly think that a feminine woman needs to appear happy all the time—even when she’s not. This is a misunderstanding and could lead to unintended side effects. Those around you may perceive you as unreal.
Even generally happy women have a full range of emotions. It’s actually one of the things that makes us fascinating—we are not always the same. We experience grief, joy, anger, disappointment, hurt, fear, hope and a whole spectrum of feelings. So, what is meant by radiant happiness? It’s a combination of courage, humility and optimism.
Radiant happiness is the foundation of a fascinating woman. It means that, no matter what happens in our lives, we maintain a core belief that things will get better, there is light at the end of dark tunnels and that most people are basically good and that by our choices we can make a difference in our lives. This brings a feeling of inner peace that allows us to not stay down or miserable for long periods of time. We bounce back and are not left endlessly depressed, angry or distrustful. To try to pretend that we are happy no matter what will come off to others as being phony or insincere, even if our motives are good.
If a burglar breaks into your home in the middle of the night, you don’t lose radiant happiness if you are scared and then angry. If your husband comes home and says something cruel that hurts you or is jarring, you not only aren’t obligated to act happy, but it’s not even appropriate. It might call for either childlikeness, or, if you are too hurt, an honest communication of your feelings and how wounded you are. You might even cry. But as you go back to your core of courage, kindness and optimism, your radiant happiness will shine through. You will realize you have overcome yourself—which is often the greatest battle to be won.
Don’t be afraid to identify and experience all your emotions. If you can identify a feeling, it makes you feel better and more authentic. It will help you daily to become more and more a feminine, fascinating woman who is radiantly happy!