~ From an Anonymous Contributor,
My husband and I are middle-aged grandparents with minds of our own. Forced to retire because of health problems, my husband and I decided to make the most of it and bought a home in a senior citizens retirement village. Before long, I observed that the average retired couple was not deeply happy. Most of them had worked and saved for years for this very time and found themselves disappointed. Besides that, they were lonely for their children and grandchildren who often lived far away. Retired couples have lots of time to notice petty, insignificant things in each other and tend to become critical and sarcastic. This situation distressed me and made me aware that my own marriage was not as smooth as it could be. Something was lacking! Something was elusive. The first thing I learned in Fascinating Womanhood came as a shock. The lack was within me! I had always tried to be a good wife, but I just didn’t know how at times. I found I was an expert at saying the wrong things.
But I knew as soon as I began to read, I found the way to change all that just be working and developing patience. Best of all I, alone, without help, could put our marriage on a higher level and have fun doing it. My husband does not hand out compliments easily, so I was elated one morning when he sincerely announced, “Honey, you are sweet and wonderful, and I’m glad I’m married to you.”