~ By Dixie Andelin Forsyth
A recent article on our website regarding transgender issues elicited some interesting reactions. Due to some medical issues I’ve been recovering from, I am just now getting back to some of these comments, which are all well written and thoughtful.
I always appreciate support for principles related to the importance of emphasizing femininity, it’s value and the support of masculinity. Clear gender differences are important to solid romantic relationships.
There is a crisis in gender today for both men and women. I am not at all hard-hearted. In fact, I am very sympathetic to all people and the variety of life challenges all of us face at times. My message is totally about embracing distinct masculinity and distinct femininity and promoting strong, romantic marriages and families. The quality of our relationships will determine the overall happiness of our lives.
As women, we need to embrace true femininity and as children of God, we should love all of our fellow human beings.
I see so many women struggling to find ways to have great relationships. Fascinating Womanhood provides crucial and timeless answers.
I do not believe that gender is just a social construct, however, because without any fixed position in what is given in human nature, any manipulation of it can be defended as legitimate. Natural order is important for our society and the preservation of civilization.
I see a difference between transsexual (someone who has a strong sense that they are living in the wrong body) and transgender, which the article was about. These people (transgenders) identify with neither sex specifically, but place themselves on a gender spectrum that is fluid; sometimes from month to month. They see no fixed borders. That’s where I have concern for the breakdown of society and especially the family because it implies no rules for either sexual identity or sexual expression. It results in chaos for the family system that includes bearing and raising future generations, which of course, impacts nations and the world.
I can also understand the idea of drag queens honoring femininity, to a point. I am not certain, however, that is their intent in most cases. It has seemed to me that they are mostly role playing a fantasy that often objectifies women. I find it difficult to believe they have studied how to embody the “very basis of femininity.” If this were true, only the young and sensual could be feminine. True femininity goes deeper than curves, makeup, gait, and overall presentation, even age. Emulating drag queens can never provide a stable model for future relationships, families and civilization. At best, they might offer some superficial motivation and hints of the value of femininity.
We can be feminine, modest and lovely, no matter our age, even if we don’t ever have occasion to look like we are dressed to walk down the runway. Fascinating Womanhood’s timeless principles are best when they are used to accentuate the differences between men and women as well as to develop our character, charm, compassion and ability to promote loving and respectful relationships that last a lifetime.