~ From an Anonymous Contributor,
Had I not gotten introduced to Fascinating Womanhood by a friend, I probably would be a militant feminist.
I grew up with the idea that a woman needs to have a career because she never knows when she might have to help support herself and her children because her husband may not be able to. My father is a farmer and my mother is a nurse and she has worked most of her married life. Consequently, my idea of a wife and mother included a career outside the home.
I was half way through college when my husband and I got married and I wasn’t about to let marriage stand in the way of my finishing college and teaching school! My driving ambition meant climbing over a few bodies, my husband included. School came first, church second, and my husband ran a poor third. I prepared his dinner and washed his clothes but not much else. The house was stacked so high with books and papers you had to kick a trail through. We never went anywhere because I was always studying.
Our relationship gradually deteriorated until we only spoke to each other when we had to. I still loved him, but I was getting very desperate. I thought about leaving him but had no place to go.
Then he had was sent overseas by the military. I was actually glad to see him go! I cried a little, but that was because everyone else did.
When I took the Fascinating Womanhood course and read the book, I just couldn’t believe how awful I’d been. I thought, “No wonder he behaved the way he did”! I was doing everything wrong.
I used the time that my husband was gone to change my thinking and my ways, and through applying the principles of FW through letters and after my husband returned home, we were able to put our marriage together again.
When we moved into our new home, I made some mistakes by being determined to have things my own way. I would say “That should be done that way”, or “I want it this way”. Everything I said would be met with resistance.
Then I got smart. I started asking for advice and would say things like, “Do you think it would look good over there”? I couldn’t believe the change in him when I approached him this way.
We’re so happy in our new home. He helps me with the dishes and helps with the baby. I get much more affection and other things I need. Thank you Fascinating Womanhood!
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