~ From an Anonymous Contributor,
I know Fascinating Womanhood was the answer to my prayer. When I had been married only two and a half years, with an 18-month-old son I found myself unhappy in my role as a woman. I didn’t like working, and I didn’t feel successful as a homemaker. I wanted to go to school and have a career as a commercial artist. I truly felt that I could only find happiness in this way. The idea of being “just a housewife” repelled me.
One afternoon I became hysterical, doubled over in pain that is indescribable and immediately was put on tranquilizers and psychiatric treatment. For almost two years, life was pure hell for my husband and myself, not to mention our son. After I completed treatment I was more adjusted, less frustrated and depressed. The psychiatrists had helped me a lot, but I still wasn’t happy. Happiness, I discovered, they could not give me.
I tried very hard to become a better housekeeper and to improve some of my other shortcomings. Our relationships seemed to be improving some, but something was definitely missing.
I knew I loved my husband, but it seemed as though I had lost him in the process of my treatment. The doctor very often agreed with me that my husband was at fault and the cause of much of my trouble. When I would go home after a visit with him, I would usually be mean and resentful to my husband. No wonder something was missing. I had blamed him for most of my unhappiness.
I said a silent prayer that I could be guided to vitalizing my relationship with my husband. One week later my sister showed me her Fascinating Womanhood book. She had offered it to me a year before but I hadn’t been interested! Now, I was seeking an answer and I borrowed it.
A whole new world opened up to me when I read that book. I couldn’t lay it down. I started practicing the assignments right away, as best I could. I couldn’t lay it down. I had just quit my job (which I hated and which I had worked at since we were first married, five years before) though I felt my husband really needed my earnings for us to get by. You see, at that time, I did all of the bill paying and I knew we couldn’t live on his earnings alone. But I quit on faith that God would provide and also with my husband’s blessing.
My husband was just planning to start a new business (a great financial risk) and I was joyfully pregnant again. I felt there was never a time when he needed me more to help earn money. But instead of going to work again, I encouraged him in his efforts to start his business—something I couldn’t have done before Fascinating Womanhood because I was afraid he might lose so much if he failed. He worked two jobs, one to support us at night, the other his struggling new business during the day. And we never had an unpaid bill, as I secretly feared we might.
At times, I still felt I should go back to work to help him out, because he worked such long hours, but I didn’t and I’m glad I didn’t. Instead, I gave him lots of encouragement, appreciation, and praise during this time. Ow the business is a success and he knows he did it by himself. The self-confidence he gained is indescribable.
Our financial situation became too good to believe. In our six years of marriage I had worked five and now since Fascinating Womanhood, I’ve been home, and we’ve had more money than we did when I worked. I still can’t believe it.
The most important benefits I have reaped from Fascinating Womanhood are not economical, however. Our relationship has improved almost daily. Our love has started to grow again. For a long while after my treatment, my husband hardly touched me, or showed any affection at all, and my heart just ached for him. I wished so much that he would just come up behind me and hug me or anything. It has taken two years but now he not only hugs me, he is so affectionately playful that I have to “fight him off” just to be able to do the dishes.
He had an enormous wall of reserve which I know I helped to build during my treatment—which is crumbling and almost gone. I had so many Pandora’s Box experiences with him in which he would be especially unkind and mean. He would sometimes say, half kidding, “I’m getting even for all those years I couldn’t let go, when you were sick.” So I would say in a week small voice, “I know dear, and you deserve to. How did you ever manage to put up with me before?”
I have let him take over handling the children when he is home. I used to always interfere. To my surprise I have learned much from him and can deal more successfully with them now myself, when he is not at home than I could before.
I could go one still more but I must stop now and simply say my life will never be the same and I have Fascinating Womanhood to thank and I do so from the bottom of my heart.
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