~ From an Anonymous Contributor,
When my husband was alive I was a housewife type and very dependent upon him. After his death at age 41 I tried to step into his shoes. I did not want our family to be changed by his death, so I tried to cover all bases. I expected the house to be clean and orderly 100% of the time and expected my children to be perfect. I ran a lunch room at school and there I expected excellence of myself. I was thrown into a world where I was making men’s decisions and trying to cope with everything, sometimes in agony. When I was tired, I worked harder.
Then I became ill. I could not work for three months. However, God is good and this was a way to make me slow down and examine my life. My friend brought me Fascinating Womanhood to read while I was recovering. I could not put it down, read it three times—and I don’t even have a husband.
Many times, while reading it, tears came to my eyes because I could not try it on my beautiful husband. But I was happy with the philosophy and wanted to try it on my two sons, ages 11 and 12.
I approached the 12-year-old and said, “Bob, do you think you could get a piece of wire and fix the toilet?” He said, “How about if I use this fishing line?” He was there working and figuring, doing a perfect job. I went in several times to watch and admire him.
Later, I asked him to organize the garage saying, “Boys are better than girls for organizing tools and things.” In the morning he cleaned the entire garage. I said to the girls when he was within earshot what a great job he’d done.
Yesterday, I asked the boys to paint the back side of the house because I was not strong enough. They were just great and I was so happy and proud as I watched them. I told them how strong they were. They really did a good job and were proud of it. Before Fascinating Womanhood, I would have been on the ladder myself. Both sons are happier now. They smile more and seem more content. Ladies, this is the way to motivate our young men and bring them close to us.
A man I had been dating came to see me. I expressed admiration for him, for his work in a man’s world, his ability to think things out and so forth. I said that I was not so independent. His remarks were that I had changed, was softer, warmer, had more depth and was less defensive.
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