~ By an Anonymous Contributor,
I married young, with a very poor background in marital and family happiness, ignorant of the basic principles that lead to a happy marriage. And so, being ignorant, (and I knew I was), I read, searched and studied all I could find to make me the perfect wife and mother. I took courses at our local universities, became involved in women’s groups and community projects and eagerly adopted the new modern philosophy of the “modern woman”. All that came of this was a growing discontentment.
I soon felt that I was meant for bigger and better things than cooking, cleaning and waiting on members of my family. Well, to make a long story short, my marriage soon began to deteriorate. I wasn’t happy, my husband wasn’t happy and therefore, our children weren’t happy. We had numerous sessions with marriage counselors. I had had years of private counseling and psychoanalysis and yet none of it seemed to be helping.
I finally decided I had to make a complete break, that we could never be happy together. I had been told that we were incompatible. I decided to go on a semi-vacation-separation. As soon as I had made this decision, a feeling of being completely washed out came over me. I felt like a failure. I cried like a child for hours that first day of my decision. I didn’t want to do this, but felt it was something I had to do for the well-being of everyone concerned. I forced myself to go through the motions of leaving, feeling as a woman might feel when she gives up an illegitimate child, not for her own happiness, but for the future of the child.
I went to a wonderful aunt who in the past had given me much moral support, never telling me what to do, but guiding me into making the right decision. When I told her of my plight, all she said was, “I have something you might be interested in.” I spent the next 48 hours reading and re-reading Fascinating Womanhood.
At first, I was quite critical of parts of it, but the more I studied it and applied it, the more apparent it became that all it says is true. The part that impressed and helped me the most was accepting a man at face value and the pride that a man has. I could see where I had been wrong.
I came back home determined to make Fascinating Womanhood work for us. My husband is a restrained and introverted person so does not respond with dramatic reaction I read about in your book, but our marriage has grown and still growing, and I am so much more loving, giving and understanding. Fascinating Womanhood has done more for us than anything ever could.
I want to take the classes and learn FW so well that it will become second nature to me. I had read that borrowed book time and again, loaned it out and promoted it so much that I am convinced that it might be brought to the attention of everyone. I would also like to become a teacher—I feel this is one way I can help.
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