~ From an Anonymous Contributor,
Our three children were born bright, healthy, and beautiful. I was awed by them and apologetic about the world into which we had brought them. I mistakenly thought I could make up for the inevitable hardships they would face by devoting myself to them.
For five years I put them ahead of everything and everyone. I spared no expense buying baby pictures, toys, clothes, etc. I felt no one could care for my children as well as I could and got babysitters only when they were asleep. I felt personally responsible for their happiness and was miserable carrying this burden on my shoulders. My husband naturally, was a second-class citizen in our home. He had to compete for my time and attention. I even made him be quiet when the children wanted to talk at the same time he did.
Then my husband had a serious accident, and for a time we thought he might die. As I sat in the intensive care unit waiting room, I was filled with such guilt that I was physically sick. I thought of my husband’s status in our family unit. I thought of how much he had wanted a swimming pool and of how much I had made him do without so we could buy a larger house someday. When I thought of losing him forever, I realized how much he meant to me. I realized that our children would leave home one day and that my husband was my life partner. Our friends and families had lives of their own. I prayed and prayed for another chance.
God did give us another chance. I found Fascinating Womanhood and my life changed. We put in that swimming pool as soon as he got home from the hospital. My husband thrives on being number one in our home. The children have responded and are becoming less selfish and self-centered. I have given them the responsibility of finding their own happiness and this has let me be more free. Because they no longer feel the sun rises and sets on them, I feel they will be better prepared to face maturity.
Had we not had this great warning and fear, I feel that by now my husband and I would not be living together. I would be living with my children, resentful and tied down, and envying my husband’s freedom. I now feel we are both free, free to love each other and our children.
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