~ From an Anonymous Contributor,
When I first enrolled in a Fascinating Womanhood class I wasn’t prepared for all the changes that were about to take place in my life! To begin with, our marriage wasn’t that bad, so I felt there was little room for improvement. Besides, I had read “The Fascinating Girl” prior to our marriage and had really applied it in our courtship days and the early days of our marriage.
This class showed me how far I had slipped from being my husband’s ideal woman in he past four years. I found out that the honeymoon didn’t end just because “it always does,” but that I had brought it to an end by trying to help my husband run his life. I was constantly offering well-meaning advice regarding education, careers, and finances. And he was constantly ignoring that advice or fighting it, which brought up a huge wall of reserve between us.
Although we loved each other, neither one was enjoying the other’s company that much. And the funny part is that I honestly thought it was all his fault and that if he’d follow my suggestions we’d be happier. I might mention here that I rated our marriage as “happy to very happy” in the workbook. The “extremely happy” definition seemed such a fairy tale I couldn’t believe anyone could have that!
When I suddenly began admiring my husband again and accepting him as he was, without offering my “two cents worth”, he was skeptical. He said, “Oh, that’ll wear off in two weeks or so.” I really don’t think he accepted anything I said for about a month because it was so out of character for me.
The turning point of our marriage came when I made a book for our two-year-old son about “My Daddy.” I used a lot of photographs of the two of them together and of my husband doing manly things. I glued them on construction paper pages, added captions making references to how hard Daddy works, his strong muscles, and how smart he is! Then I covered each page with clear contact paper.
When my husband saw the book he actually became misty-eyed. He said, “This is really beautiful—you are so creative…I think every child should have something like this to help them realize what Daddy’s are for.” I said, “Well, we realize and I really appreciate all you do for us”.
From then on he’s been a different man. He finally realized that the admiration was coming from my heart. Since that time, we have truly had an extremely happy marriage. He’s been working out of town lately and only comes home on weekends. In years prior to this I have spent similar weekends pouting and complaining about how little I saw him. This year, the weekends are like honeymoons. He’s anxious to come home and we spend the whole time together and are really communicating.
He’s much more physically affectionate and often tells me how happy he is. He brings me little gifts and surprises and I have absolutely no complaints.
One of the nicest things he has done recently is to plan a vacation for us. He has always known that I love to travel by car and have wanted to take a trip to Missouri where we met. Each year when I’ve asked him he’s said, “You know I don’t ever like to travel. If we go anywhere, we’ll fly…but there’s no where I want to go.” This year I didn’t even mention a vacation. One day out of the blue he said, “Why don’t we go to Missouri this May?” I nearly flipped. Slipping into my “old self” I began to help him plan. I said, “We could probably fly and it could cost about the same”. He said “No, I want to drive. We’ve never been a real vacation by car.” How’s that for a Fascinating Womanhood success?
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