~ By Dixie Andelin Forsyth
It’s amazing how many of us think that sharing with others the weaknesses of the man in our life is okay. Many women mistakenly believe that trusting friends with the faults of our men will help bond us together and feel understood. But this can be dangerous for our relationships. It’s a breach of loyalty and means our men aren’t really accepted at face value. And once spoken to others, you never know who will hear your words, who they will tell, and what narrow opinion they could very well form of him. And what you said about him could get back to him. It could cause him to build up and fortify his wall of reserve even thicker than before.
When you marry or commit to a man, he trusts you with his strengths, but also his weaknesses. You probably didn’t see them before you got married because he was more careful then, and so were you. Marriage reveals a new level of intimacy, and therefore new knowledge of each other--the good with the bad.
Women love feeling connected and bonded to female friends. But disparaging talk about husbands undermines all relationships involved.
Get into another habit: one of man boasting, or constantly looking for opportunities to let him and others know how wonderful he is and how proud you are of him. Others will think our husbands are wonderful and it could even get back to him with positive results. It also could encourage our friends to find positive things to say about husbands.